the lonesome lows don't quite go away overnight

Dear femslashafterdark creator,

Thank you for being here and for creating for me! I'm generally a multi shipper, and love romantic fic but also solo, character-driven stuff, explorations, and even a little adventure fic. I am so deeply Not Picky, and I haven't been able to participate in much since having my daughter four years ago, so I'm basically just happy to be here and to participate.

I think what will make me the happiest is knowing that you've enjoyed your time writing for me, regardless of the specifics of fandom or pairing or content. So, please take the following as helpful-only-as-far-as-it-is-helpful-to-you and take the leeway and freedom you need! That said, if what you need is more specific prompts, I hope to offer those as well. Also, my pronouns are they/them/she/her if you'd like to discuss me. 

General Likes:

• Domesticity: married life, chaos of raising kids, work/life balance, the real work of staying together and working on trauma, mutual long-term healing, partnerships
• Shared Space Tropes: fake relationship turns real, snowed in, forced to share a hotel room/bed, hetero double date fails, source of irritation becomes source of desire,
• Darker Themes: body horror, wound play (inflicted or re-opened), exploration of pain (inflicted or tested), recovery from past trauma
• AUs: character meets x instead of y, y never existed, character lives/escapes, characters die but meet on another plane of existence, 10 years after canon, pre-canon (with no strong feelings of if this would end up breaking canon itself), apocalypses
• Honesty: frank, truthful depictions of physical and mental disabilities, not seeing situations or memories with rose-colored glasses (if character x was maligned or hurt by character y, that shouldn't be ignored, unless working in an AU)
• Femslash and Poly are always opt-in :)

General Dislikes/DNWs:
Note: For this exchange, I am a bit more wiggly with DNWs, especially if they fit the bill for hurt/comfort, past trauma, or canonical events.

• Rape or detailed reference to rape
• Explicit sex including underaged characters
• Dwelling on dead children
• Explicit violence to children, especially sexualized violence
• A/B/O or other animal AU traits used sexually (though tentacles are welcome if they make sense in the story)
• Use of fanon f/f to bash canonical partners (or fanon characterization to bash other characters)
• Fetishized mental illness, including over-the-top depictions, or villains
• Scat/vomit

Professor Marston and the Wonder Women
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• Pre-movie, and post-movie, and all of the missing bits of lives the movie skips and jumps around
• Sex, or no sex. Together, or separate. 
• Professional lives and struggles
• Discussions regarding kink, consent, and limits; curiosity
• Kink in non-sexual contexts
• They have a pattern of pushing past limits in their early relationship. I'd like them to end up okay, but I don't mind some explorations.

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• Overwrought explorations on how one might label one's sexuality
• Either only feeling sexual or romantic love for one partner. Don't need to show it or him in detail, but please don't claim that they don't love Bill.
• Details from their children's real lives

The Nevers
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• Turns used in sex
• Violence, hurt/comfort, wounds
• Encounters related to Maladie/Sarah or The Ferryman's Club used as hurt for comfort
• Full disclosure in sex, partners knowing the whole truth
• Drugs

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• Detailed Maladie/True
• Auggie. I find him fine in passing, but increasingly irritating and kind of gross in focus

Fingersmith - Sarah Waters
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• Partnered or separate
• Self-harm or self-punishment
• Pornography as an expression of love
• Attempting to remain stoic during sex
• Sex vs love

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• Any detailed sexual encounter with men

Masters of Sex
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• During canon, AUs
• Together or solo
• Medical and science talk, including clinical sex and kink

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• Post-death storylines. Maybe that is obvious, but I feel I should say it.
• Focus on Lillian/Men
• Real life details from Virginia or Bill's children, if they were even to come up

Dear Creator,

I AM SO HAPPY YOU ARE HERE! I AM SO HAPPY I AM HERE!

This is my first exchange in four years, and I want to assure you that does NOT mean pressure of any kind on you, dear creator. The pressure is on me, and your gift will be icing on a very determined cake. I think what will make me the happiest is knowing that you've enjoyed your time writing for me, regardless of the specifics of fandom or pairing or content. So, please take the following as helpful-only-as-far-as-it-is-helpful-to-you and take the leeway and freedom you need! That said, if what you need is more specific prompts, I hope to offer those as well. Also, my pronouns are they/them/she/her if you'd like to discuss me. 

( Likes )( Dislikes )


Specific Requests:

If there is a fandom listed you aren't familiar with but want to be, I included a bullet point or two on guides. However, after those bullet points, there WILL be spoilers, so tread with caution. 

( Masters of Sex, Gone Girl, Mean Girls, Hannibal )

Dear author/artist,

Hi! I know my selection of fandoms is pretty widespread, but hopefully you have options, and if you don't I hope where we matched is a delight for you! I've got a few ideas for each fandom, but feel free to go your own way! I've stated when my triggers are hard lines, but generally if something is warned for, I'm okay with it. Have fun! Don't stress! If you have vague questions, you can ask me anon on tumblr (aphrodite-mine.tumblr.com) or through mage-girl on LJ/magicisgreen on tumblr.

To get a flavor for things I enjoy, you're welcome to check out my tumblr or my fic recs. If anything makes you feels weird/stressed, just pretend you didn't see it! Along those lines, I think I've got all of the language fic/art compliant, but if you see something that appears to lean one way or the other, it's a mistake and trust me, I requested what you're prepared to give!

The Requests!
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I made Something We Are All Intimately Involved In for franzeska, which was so far outside of my wheelhouse, I don't even know! Ultimately, I had fun. I got to watch Crash a few times through which is always delightful. I'm not sure how much of this is the vid I dreamed up, but I think it works as a sort of atmospheric slash vid? I had a lot of unexpected trouble with software/new computer/being super rusty at vidding and hopefully?? that doesn't come across. 

It's pretty hilarious/ironic that I ended up making a boyslash vid because it seems that my requests inspired a HUGE FLURRY OF WOMEN/FEMINIST/FEMSLASH vids and I basically still want to die they make me so happy.

*GETS REAL SERIOUS FOR A MOMENT* 

Fandom activism can be a-mazing, I won't lie about that. But sometimes I feel like a few of us are shouting into a void and the only thing coming back is echoes. [Disclaimer: that is absolutely not the case, but it doesn't change how down I can get.] I feel like fandom is a space in which I can actually make a difference, slowly, through things like only writing and requesting women and GQ characters, through co-running rarewomen, and through quietly, constantly, defending and loving the women you hate.

It gave me THE MOST HAPPY to see the things made based off of my prompts.

chaila  made Satan, Your Kingdom Must Come Down (Top of the Lake) which she talks about a little here. In retrospect, I should have known this was chaila! I guessed another of her vids -- Paradise Circus (Stoker) -- and REALLY should have seen the tell-tale chaila-ness here as well. After all, she DID say she was going to make a vid for this great miniseries even if she wasn't assigned to it!

eruthros , who I've been getting to know on twitter, made me TWO vids. Both for the exquisite Masters of Sex. It is to their credit that I would never have guessed they were made by the same person! THEY ARE VERY DIFFERENT VIDS! Studies in Human Sexual Response: She Bop is hilarious and sexy and a wonderful celebration of ladies having orgasms! Also, parachute, which is a beautiful, sad, comparison between Virginia with Bill and Virginia with Lillian and it makes me the MOST sad because Lillian is probably gonna die and history tells us that Virginia and Bill... don't. For awhile anyway. (And not that I don't like Virginia with Bill, but I wish she could be more of Lillian!Virginia with him. And he would stop being an ass.)

TO TOP IT ALL OFF, anoel  made Love, Save the Empty (Masters of Sex) which is the blatant Lillian/Virginia shipping vid I had no idea I wanted and needed SO DESPERATELY.

In short: Thank you for making this exchange, and my life, a delight.